I had to stay away from FaceBook yesterday because, if truth be told, the pictures and stories of other’s beautifully perfect Thanksgivings were a bit too much for this little heart of mine that lives with the reality of imperfection.
I felt guilty for experiencing pain at simply viewing the beauty of my friend’s lives. But there you have it. My reality. I was experiencing a twinge of pain and resentment when I viewed lives that seemed so perfect and happy.
But wait, is that really what those pictures represent; perfection?
Do I really need to feel jealousy and pain from the images being represented on FaceBook? No, I don’t think I do.
Truth is, If I stop looking inward for a moment at my own pain and really look at your pictures, I mean really look at them, I think I can celebrate your snapshot of joy with you.
You see, I know the truth of many of your pictures. I know some of your stories. I know that while your picture looks perfect and happy, there have been many painful moments that have gone into the rebuilding of the lives in those pictures. Some of the pictures still have pain woven into the lives of those smiling faces represented. But for that very brave moment, while the camera is being focused, everyone has chosen to put that pain aside and say with merriment, “Cheese!” In one brief nano second, a snapshot of joy was captured. This is the picture that we rush to post on FaceBook; our nano second of joy. I celebrate that nano second of joy!
We all want that picture perfect family. We all want to say, “See, look at the perfection I have in this moment!” I celebrate your moment with you. I truly do.
I celebrate your moment with you because I know how quickly those moments can disappear and how much you will treasure past moments and long for moments of perfection again. Those moments are important.
However, there are so many individuals living without those nano seconds. Perhaps they have had them, perhaps they will have them again. But in this moment, they are without them.
Facebook is a what it is; an opportunity to reflect our lives. I would challenge us to do more real living on FaceBook. By real I do not mean dragging all of our garbage across Social Media, but I mean creating a real stream of life; sharing the good and the bad days. Not just the perfect days. When we share both we provide an opportunity for authentic living and authentic living is so much more inclusive.
Imagine a life without the posturing of perfection. How freeing would that be?
I do understand our need to capture perfection. Recently I posted a past moment of perfection from a few years back when life had the allusion of perfection. If I’m going to ask you to be real, I’m going to have to be real myself. This might have been what some of us were thinking…..
I think my sister is feeling the same way. Just yesterday she posted a video of her idea of a perfect Thanksgiving side dish. This is truly her reality this year and I celebrate her reality and applaud it as my entire Thanksgiving meal was purchased from Safeway. We have both had “Perfect” Thanksgivings in the past. This just wasn’t one of them.
Happy day after Thanksgiving! I am thankful for you all and pray that together, through this holiday season and the rest of our days, we can do some “real” living.